Darkness is nothing but absence of light!

Hello my friends!

I know many people, and seen many of them depressed at many moments of their life. These days we can see so many people's lives almost destroyed due to shear depression in which they have caught themselves due to some or the other reason. Recent events in a friend's life urged me to share this here, on my desiccator. I know I am not a psychiatrist who could treat depression, but well, I am philosophical enough to light a candle of hope. You can say, I am just trying to give a little strength to the person who reads this. May not be that helpful, but don't you think, something is better than nothing?

I would like to give you all a real life example. I have a friend on some social networking website. I won't disclose any name, etc. Still would like to point out what I came to know of from that friend. Now this friend of mine, lets call 'em "X" and their another friend by "Y". Now "Y" too is a friend of "X"(but not mine) on that networking site. "Y" had no real friends, all "Y" had were some friends, online. Partner of this "Y" was killed in front of their eyes. The killer was given enough punishment for the crime, though it was not enough to add some life in "Y". "X" was one of the best friends "Y" had. Now some more sad happenings in the life of "Y" pursued "Y" to abandon their account on the website. Now "X" was quite worried. I was told about the situation of "Y". A few days later though "Y" was out of all the depression, the reason wasn't known.

Why I mentioned that example is not that it taught us to fight with adversities, it teaches us that somewhere in the world there is somebody who does think of your goodwill. So never think you are alone. Though I myself don't think much in this fashion(DON'T LAUGH!! :P ). I always think the things to be such that there's nobody who would help us, we have to fight alone. Though that's a different thing. Let's not intermix things. I was stating the above example to make all of you understand a simple fact that if happiness doesn't stays forever, nor does the sadness! Did you get my point? You guys must've heard of a popular quote that says, "The moments before the sunrise, are the darkest!" I don't say that wake up in the morning and test the thing literally, but in figurative or metaphoric way, yes, it's quite right.

And the one that I mentioned as the topic of my post is, "Darkness is nothing but the absence of light". Now let's analyse this line, literally first. If there is a room, where there is no light, we say that the room is dark. But when we bring in a candle, the darkness is gone. Even if the candle glows feeble, in the corner of the room. But well, the room can no longer be called "Dark". And as soon as we blow off the candle, the room is dark again! Now what does that mean? Howsoever dark it is, but a single ray of light kills this Darkness. Now what does this further implies? Yes! Darkness means absence of light, not killer of light. Darkness can never blow off the candle or eat it's light.

Now let's come to metaphoric meaning! Do I need to explain it? Isn't it quite clear by the literal meaning alone? Well, a single ray of happiness can kill the darkness of the sadness. Now from where does this ray of happiness enters our life? From friends? From loved ones? From enemies? From whom? Well, the answer is ourselves! This ray of happiness enters our life only when we believe in ourselves, and we can hope of good, or bright future. All it takes is strength. "When you are hardest hit, is the time when you must NOT quit."

Why do these adversities enter our life? Only because of the karma? Well there is another reason. I call it "Training". The world as we all know, is not that merciful as it may appear. But is rather a bit too harsh and cruel. These adversities and the problems teach us to fight with them. They make us tough. They make us know of our hidden talents and strengths. You may not be able to run at your fastest speed when you are running a race, but when a dog chases you, your speed increases multiple times!

The person "Y" in the above stated situation may have came out depression all because "Y" was able to light their candle of hope. Everyone has this strength to fight adversities. So instead of crying when they come in your way of life, feeling depressed, or similar things, challenge them. Ask them to try their level best, and teach them a lesson that they are scared of entering your life again. Simple, and difficult, both. It all depends on your realisation.

So I would say it again, don't you think that failure has eaten you. It has not destroyed your happiness. Your happiness needs to be sparked again. All you need is belief, that is self-belief. Believe in yourself, try to remain indifferent to the consequences. Give your best effort, even if you have almost lost, but never give up. When you give up, the candle of hope is not just blown off, it's actually crushed. So why destroy your happiness on your own? believe in yourself, believe in god, give your best, and always keep smiling, and all you'll see would be Happiness, Happiness, and Happiness all around, and thus success! And don't get shattered by failure, it has just came to teach you something good, so that your next success is far more better than any of the previous ones!

Hope my little effort helps you all get out any such situation, if you come across, or help your friends out! Thanks for reading, Good Day! ^_^

Care about what other people think and you'll be their prisoner for life

Just read a superb quote, and could relate it to my life in a lot too many ways. The quote goes as :

"Care about what other people think and you'll be their prisoner for life." - James Frey

Hello to all of you my friends! I hope the Sunday is going on, or has gone(in case its over for you already!) good for you! :) And what I wanted to discuss at my Desiccator today, was this quote that I just stated above.

Isn't it quite right? In everybody's life there is a moment which is influenced by the thinking of others. We might sometimes say away casually that, "Huh! I don't care what world thinks about me. I am what I am." But inside, at some point of time, our decisions do get affected. Why does that happen then? Aren't we lying to ourselves? Or are we just trying to let our false pride, or "EGO" to be specific, live longer?

The quote by James Frey, that I have stated above is quite true. When we think about what other's would think of our action, we are unable to be ourselves. All of us want to be someone who is different from others, so that we don't get lost in the crowd of this world. But if we are unable to do things our way, or say, or speak up what we like or want, just because the listener or the other person won't, or rather, "might won't", like it, then we are doing nothing but just killing that special person who we actually are.

I would say, it is kind of running away from reality, when our decisions are affected by others. I can state a simple example out here. Consider you want to buy a gift for your best friend. Now if you want to buy a gift, who should be deciding what you should buy? You? Your friend? or the shopkeeper?

If the shopkeeper decides, then he would like to sell you something that would fetch him the most profit. Your friend would ask for something he/she is longing for. But if you decide yourself, then? Then you would buy something, your pocket allows you. Something you think would be the best. And what my own experiences suggest is that when the choice is ours, the gift we give is the best, well atleast in 90% cases. Here though we do think what would other person like, or would think of our gift, but if the person is your friend for real, he/she would love anything you buy for them, then if is it just a flower.

The reason why I stated the above example is not to justify the quote as such, but to tell you that the quotes are a bit flexible. What I mean is, just don't go with the meanings of the words, but consider them to be metaphoric. Anyways, lets get back to the quote and just the literal meaning of it.

"Care about what others think" - When you think of what others think, (oh! I have said it already! Geesh, don't get bored! LOL!) you don't do what you think, but your decision and thought process gets molded. Consider it this way - Your thought is a material. The other person's thoughts, and words are the fire. When the fire gets over your material, it starts rising it's temperature. This, thus, makes the "material" go soft. And the stress it generates on you, tends to mold this material in the way the other person thinks. What happens then?! Your original thought is destroyed. It is changed. The new thought is not yours, it is something that has the body of your thought, but the soul! well, it is taken away, and is replaced by the one that was of the other person's thought.

What happened to you then? You as a unique person are lost. Your mind is enslaved, and your thoughts are influenced by others. Thus what are you now? A PRISONER! Sadly, but yes, you have ended up being a prisoner, all because what you want to say or do is not what you actually say or do, but what you actually say or do, is what other person wants or likes, or thinks is okay!

In practice, it is not possible to be thinking completely in a way that is uninfluenced by the other person, but the lesser it is, the more original you are, and the more "YOU", you are! So try not to pay attention to what world thinks of you. People are jealous of those who have something. Those who have nothing are laughed upon. So why care about such a world? Be yourself. And then, those who accept you as what you are, are your real friends...Rest all are just there because of some or the other selfish motive.

Thank you for reading, good day! :)

Scared of Ghosts?! And what of the person behind the mirror?! :O

Alright, I can say it this time too, I don't own this pic, found it from google.

Now, what I wanted to discuss at my desiccator today is that, are you really scared of ghosts? I mean, as a kid, I was really scared of ghosts, and dark, but no longer.

When I was a kid, I couldn't go in other room of my house during night, leave alone watching a horror movie, but now I can watch a horror movie, like Grudge, at 2 am, and go to sleep! - WITHOUT PROBLEM! :D As a kid, if I were scared of ghosts, it is normal, because we are not able to think that rationally and all, so its not that big an issue if I believed in the existence of ghosts (though I still believe, but no longer scared).

But when we are big enough to be indifferent to such things, why are we so casual about their existence? I know many of my friends, who still are very scared and can't watch a horror movie in the daylight, leave the night part! But tell me one thing, if ghosts are so scary, even when we have not seen them, what of the people? Yes, the human beings? Are we any less than those scary monsters which are there in the fairy tails, which could cause a small kid to wet its bed, just to teach 'em a lesson of goodwill?! o_O

Sadly, we aren't any better! :/ There is less than a handful of people who could call them "human beings", a class that regards to those animals who have made themselves worthy to be called better than other animals!

When I look at the newspaper these days, I feel so bad about about my city! Every other page has atleast one news that tells about somebody's murder, or kidnap, or rape! Is this we are really up to?! Our great politicians preach of a country where people have not yet forgotten their moral values, where people are still humans, just tell me one thing, are we really living in such a world they are telling us that we are a part of? Seems like they have considered us to be to too gullible to be able to observe and understand what's going on out here!

The spirit of festivals is lost. They are just holiday, nothing else than that! They are celebrated as fun-day, but not with the respect they must be! We have so many religions across the world. Every religion teaches the same lesson in one way or other, but "WHO CARES?!". In a false pride, we tend to give our religion supremacy over the others, as if the other religions are teaching things that are too different or too wrong! HUH!!

I was asking you all, that are you scared of ghosts? Some would say yes, some would say no. But I again ask, what of the person that is there on the other side of the mirror? What of the people around the world who are acting too foolish that the whole humanity would feel ashamed that they are also humans, alas!

Can we think of a world with all the good things if we continue to waste ourselves like this? I am not trying to agitate anyone, but tell me, are we right? Okay, I am not talking about everyone, some of us are doing good things, but of we talk in a normal manner, are the people around the world really acting "humanly"? Now tell me, who is more scary? A ghost who is never seen outside the stories? or a human being, who is slowly sucking the blood of the whole society, killing it slowly, for its own greed and lust for money and power?